Tuesday, July 24, 2012

Totally Cute Tuesday

Because one option for drinkware is never enough.

Monday, July 23, 2012

Mommy Therapy

Last Friday, Addy and I paid a long overdue visit to my Aunt Brenda and Uncle George. They live only 25 minutes away, but somehow we only see them for the annual Christmas gathering and maybe one additional time each year. Growing up, I know we didn't see Aunt Brenda very often. She was my mom's sister, and I was a smart enough kid to understand that the two of them did not get along very well. Now that I'm older, I can make a good guess as to part of the reason why - Aunt Brenda has a knack for innocently saying the wrong thing, and I'm pretty sure my mom was the type to be easily offended. I, on the other hand, love my aunt for this. I'm a huge fan of brutal honesty, and you can count on her for that, even if she doesn't mean to say it the way it comes out.

Addy was having a good ole time rummaging through the baskets of toys at Aunt Brenda's house, but she kept trying to climb the bookshelf to get to the games on top. And she kept handling knickknacks that she shouldn't have been touching. And she kept walking around with this big glass-encased candle. And she kept spilling her water everywhere. And I kept correcting her and pulling her away from everything. Finally, Aunt Brenda said, "Have you spent much time around young kids Stacy?" to which I replied, "No." And she said, "Well you can tell." And there it was, that innocent remark that, taken the wrong way, could be very condescending and judgemental. It probably didn't take much more than a remark like that for my mom to not speak to her for months. But I'm not my mom...I said, "Yeah, I know, I suck at it!" What she really meant by the comment, and what she proceeded to discuss with me, was that I have no benchmark for judging Addy's behavior, and my expectations of a 20 month old are way too high. She simply said, "You need to lower your expectations Stacy. She's actually a very compliant child."

And she's right. Ever since I found out I'd be a mom, I've had this idea in my head of what my child would be like. She would be timid and quiet. She would follow directions, and answer to her name. She would always walk with me, never run off. She would be obedient, a perfect little angel. My child wouldn't be the one touching everything she can reach in the store. She wouldn't be the one screaming for the cookies that she sees in the cart, She wouldn't be the one that slaps people when she doesn't get her way. Nope, not my child. Afterall, according to my dad, I was pretty much a perfect little angel, so why would my daughter be any different?

The difference between reality and my expectations of her is a daily struggle for me. But my visit with Aunt Brenda brought me down a notch and reminded me that she is only 20 months old, and she's behaving exactly the way a 20 month old should be. Addy got to play in a new environment with Aunt Brenda encouraging her exploration, and I left feeling better equipped to handle the type of child she is - smart, playful, curious, rambunctious, and...normal.

Thursday, July 12, 2012

Bad night?

In case you ever think I have not combed my daughter's hair, I assure you, I have. This is how I found her this morning:

OMG Mom, I dreamt I was on this crazy
acid trip...oh wait, that was just the
Yo Gabba Gabba episode yesterday...

Saturday, July 7, 2012

Gotta make room!

All was quiet in the playroom after Addy boisterously threw the plastic grocery and food items out of her shopping cart one by one. Of course quiet = trouble, so I had to investigate...

What do you know, I fit!

Friday, July 6, 2012

The Park Attempt

Here in NE Ohio we are experiencing a bit of a heat wave. The high today was 97 degrees, with a heat index of 105 degrees. For us, that's pretty miserably hot. I decided to take Addy to the park this morning before it got too hot to play outside. When I checked the temperature on my phone, it was 75 degrees, but within the time it took me to get her out the door and to the park, it was already a purely sunny 82 degrees. She didn't seem to mind too much though!

When I took her out of the car, she bolted toward the playground chanting, "Play! Plaaaaaay!!!" She always heads straight to the swings first, but she didn't last there too long today.

Next, of course, she headed to the spiral slide. Unfortunately, the slide had been baking in the sun and was way too hot to use with her wearing shorts- sting my fingertips kind of hot! So I put her on my lap and went down twice, until I noticed an earwig had decided to join us (I have enough of those at my house right now, I'm not going to entertain them at the playground)! And as usual, she tired of the playground quickly and ran to the picnic shelter. She likes to step up onto the cement platform and down into the rocks lining the perimeter, over and over and over again. We were both hot and sweaty with rosy cheeks, but we stayed hydrated!

When she had had enough of the heat, she went running to the car. I got her to stop on the way, though, and pose on this rock for a pic of her finally looking at the camera:

To everyone else experiencing the heat wave - play smart, stay cool, drink lots of water! And to those unfortunate families without power in this heat....I can't even imagine how absolutely miserable you must be! I'm so thankful that none of the severe thunderstorms have wiped out our power! (knock on wood, knock on wood.....)